<3 Journey: Single? Here Are Some Awesome Video Tips.

The title of this blogsite is Agenda: Love. Love God. Love Others. Part of loving others is being with a person for the rest of your earthly life. I don’t know what that looks like, obviously, but I think it is fitting to write a blog at least once a month regarding this kind of love. I know that I have yet to have a relationship that is healthy, and godly. Would you mind journeying along with me during this learning process? Studying what a godly, healthy relationship looks like? Asking tough questions, getting healing from past junk?

I’ll be calling these relationship blogs: The Love Journey Series (<3 Journey Series)

I’m definitely no expert on relationships… Just a woman trying to figure out what a healthy, godly relationship looks like.Your input,and comments would be greatly appreciated.

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“A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength” Prov. 17:22.

I dunno about you, but I love to laugh ,especially when it comes to things dealing with relationships.

Now I hope that you don’t actually go ahead and take the advice from these next Youtube videos…or maybe y ou should…but I do hope that they put a smile on your face, and a giggle in your heart.

A more inspiring Love Journey blog will appear sometime this month… but for now… Enjoy =)

Tips for the single Facebooker

Tips for the single church folks

Agenda: Love,
Bethsaida

Love Journey: Leaving it All Behind, Except Your Boo

It’s not rocket science to know that having relationships is the lifeline of being a human being. Especially romantic ones. I mean I work in an environment where I see, daily, the pain, deception, twistedness, brokenness, and unhealthiness of relationships between men and women.

I have to be honest and say that it is VERY easy to get jaded in regards to godly, amazing men existing in the world. But God was gracious enough to surround me around amazing men in my family growing up… so I know there is hope.

Yet still, at times there is a part of me that gets frustrated with the lack of men stepping up and the lack of character, and integrity, that seem to be infiltrating my generation…both for males and females.

The title of this blogsite is Agenda: Love. Love God. Love Others. Part of loving others is being with a person for the rest of your earthly life. I don’t know what that looks like, obviously, but I think it is fitting to write a blog at least once a month regarding this kind of love. I know that I have yet to have a relationship that is healthy, and godly. Would you mind journeying along with me during this learning process? Studying what a godly, healthy relationship looks like? Asking tough questions, getting healing from past junk?

I’ll be calling these relationship blogs: The Love Journey Series

I’m definitely no expert on relationships… Just a woman trying to figure out what a healthy, godly relationship looks like.Your input,and comments would be greatly appreciated.

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The other day my daily Bible verse app had this verse:

 “And everyone who has given up houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or property, for my sake, will receive a hundred times as much in return and will inherit eternal life.”Matthew 19:29

Read the verse again, see if you notice one member of the family that Jesus doesn’t mention you need to leave?

Your spouse.

I have read that verse several times, but when I read it this time, that truth stuck out to me.

I have seen the truth of leaving my family, and receiving mothers, fathers, sisters, and brothers…even children…all over the world. My family has truly been extended, and I know that it will continue to grow as God takes me different places in life…but why doesn’t Jesus mention your spouse?

That must say a lot about what God thinks about marriage. It is the strongest human bond that can ever exist. Where the two become ONE.

How does this apply to a single person? Well It makes me think of this one thing. Whoever you marry has to have the same heart passions as you. If one person feels called to settle down in a country that is on the complete opposite side of the world than the country that God has placed in your heart…well you can’t one day say “Sorry, honey I need to go to Timbuktu because God has called me there, so have fun serving him here.”

No.. both people have to have the same passion, heart, desire, goal. Both have to be willing to leave mother, father, sister, brother, property…together…as a team.

This is something sobering to think about for myself personally. I don’t want to ever feel that I can’t fulfill the desires God has put in my heart because my spouse’s desires are completely opposite.

I mean, yes timing is just as important. Perhaps there is a time for one person to fulfill the calling God has in their life, and then the spouse’s turn… but the bottom line is the hearts have to be the same.

And let me just say, that it is helpful if the man knows what God has called him to, and pursues it. It’s a man’s role to pursue…why do I say that? Because that’s what Christ did for each of us.. pursued us with His love… and the man is supposed to treat the wife like Christ…but that will be a whole other blog.

A healthy, godly relationship is one where both are willing to leave it all behind…TOGETHER… to pursue whatever it is God has asked.

What do you think about this?

****my oh so wise brother-in law sent me a message stating that some manuscripts say “wife”…so I just want to clarify some things. 1. I use controversial titles to entice people to read my blogs…yes.. you were enticed. 2. OBVIOUSLY no godly relationship works unless GOD is #1..before the spouse. 3. “similar burdens do not always have to bring couples together, it could but it must be their love for GOd first, then for each other. Because sometimes the burden is only for a season and often it does not always transpire the way anticipated.”-Pastor Wight. It’s great to go through this journey, learning what godly love is like. Keep the input coming friends.

Agenda: Love,

Bethsaida

You’re My Best Friend

What is a best friend? Someone who stays by your side when no one else will. Someone you can laugh with, act silly with, and know that no matter what you do they will not judge you, and will love you. Someone who loves you enough to call out the lies in your life, and not let you stay the way that you are. Someone who always has your back. Someone who understands what you’re going through without you having to even articulate one word of how you’re feeling. They can just look at you.. and know.

Honestly, I’m not sure there is anyone in my life that I can call that. I mean, I have acquaintances.. lots of them (almost 2000 of them according to FaceBook). I thank God for the handful of people that He has brought into my life that have become my close, dear friends.

But sometimes I wonder if YOU, the one who reads my blogs, are my best friend. You know some of the most innermost, intimate feelings of my heart and mind. Writings that I don’t verbally express to the people I come into contact with daily. But YOU.. you get a glimpse of them.

I’m not a verbal processor. I’m an introverted, writing processor. And so, my friend, since I have not written a blog in a few weeks, I figured I would process with you, and let you in on what is going on…so here goes the randomness:

– Feeling overwhelmed. It’s a horrible feeling. Not one I enjoy feeling, though I feel it comes in little spurts here and there. In a way I understand Jason Russell. I understand how pouring your life into someone, and getting horrendous backlash from the people you are fighting for can drive you crazy. Sure there are a lot of unknowns in that situation, and I could discuss various theories as to why I believe he had the breakdown, but having a breakdown…I can understand that. And it gives me much more gracious eyes.

– The girls that I have been pouring into seem to be getting farther and farther away. The girls I have been fighting for in prayer seem to be getting worse and worse. I mean, it’s not gonna stop me from fighting for them, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t discouraging. I’d be lying if I said that my heart is broken minute after minute on certain days. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want to check out and revert back to my world of no responsibility for the rest of my life.

– I get so happy when I see my friends and family in relationships, and in love. Getting engaged, weddings. I wonder if there will ever be a day that people will look at me and be happy for me in that way. Love is so beautiful. Pure, unadulterated love. God’s love displayed through the union of two people. It’s beautiful flowers in this world garden of weeds.

– Failed the children. I saw one of the children we work with in the slums selling flower necklaces in the red-light, and I had to hold back from bursting in tears at that very moment. I should have been more diligent in creating lessons for them. There is so much more we can do in the slums, outreach to the families there, bringing Truth to them so that they don’t send their children to work in the red-light. What if I would have limited my hours on Skype, or Facebook, and used those times to pray, read my Word, and strategize for these children that God is putting before my eyes.

– I need help. Full-time help. Praying that people’s hearts would be broken for this issue, and for the people of Thailand, Chiang Mai specifically, buy a plane ticket, and come out here to serve in whatever that looks like.

– Laughing. I really love to laugh. It’s the best ab workout too.. it really is. I miss laughing a lot, a lot. I hope laughter becomes more of a part of my life this upcoming season.

– You can’t ever force anyone to change, and you can’t get frustrated when they don’t want change. You just have to love them, and continue to pray for them.  When someone is ready for change, they will seek it out truly, and will pursue it passionately. Unfortunately sometimes people have to be brought to their lowest point in order to cry out for Hope. It stinks, but so be it.

I think those are pretty much my thoughts. I do feel a bit better now. Thank you for “listening”.

I’m so thankful to God for this road that He has created my life to journey down. Though it is difficult, and though I face doubts, and trials, I would not change ANY of them.. because I know that I am in the center of His will. I know that because of this, He is strong when I am weak, and He is my joy, when I am downcast, and He is hope when it seems the waves are crashing in all around me.

He understands me when I can’t find the words to articulate or write down what I feel, He loves me when I am angry with Him, or feel unloveable. He forgives me when I make stupid mistakes, or say stupid things. He is faithful to me even when I am faithless… He gets me totally, all the time… not just once or twice a month. He truly, truly is my best friend.

“We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed. Through suffering, our bodies continue to share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies.” -2 Cor. 4:8-10

Agenda: Love,

Bethsaida